Irreplaceable 5-17-09
Sunday, May 17th, 2009One of the more destructive things to a marriage (or any relationship, for that matter) is when one person takes for granted that they are central to their spouse’s life and are, in fact irreplaceable. R&B Singer Beyoncé sang Irreplaceable, a song about a woman who has a man for whom she did everything (bought cars, clothes, jewelry, etc), and who in turn used what she did for him to pick up other women. The point of the song is summed up in a few lines (I separated the lines with “ / “, and excerpted the important content):
Everything you own in the box to the left / In the closet, that’s my stuff / Yes, if I bought it, then please don’t touch / And keep talking that mess, that’s fine / Could you walk and talk, at the same time? / And its my name that’s on that jag / So go move your bags, let me call you a cab / Standing in the front yard, telling me / How I’m such a fool, talking ’bout / How I’ll never ever find a man like you / … / You must not know ’bout me / I can have another you by tomorrow / So don’t you ever for a second get to thinkin’ / You’re irreplaceable (Knowles, et al., 2006)
You can, I suspect, get the impression that this guy is an arrogant jerk for whom the relationship was only about pleasing himself. No relationship that exists in this way is in any manner a healthy one; it certainly is not a Godly one. Now this song is about an earthly, romantic relationship; but the concern raised applies to our relationship with God.
I clothed you with an embroidered dress and put leather sandals on you. … So you were adorned with gold and silver; your clothes were of fine linen and costly fabric and embroidered cloth. Your food was fine flour, honey and olive oil. You became very beautiful and rose to be a queen. And your fame spread among the nations on account of your beauty, because the splendor I had given you made your beauty perfect, declares the Sovereign LORD. But you trusted in your beauty and used your fame to become a prostitute … You took some of your garments to make gaudy high places, where you carried on your prostitution. … And you took your embroidered clothes to put on them … Also the food I provided for you—the fine flour, olive oil and honey I gave you to eat—you offered as fragrant incense before them. … Was your prostitution not enough? You slaughtered my children and sacrificed them to the idols. (Excerpted from Ezekiel 16:10-21 NIV)
In this passage from Ezekiel, God declares that the Israelites were chosen from nowhere and given everything, but instead of appreciating God and being true to him, they turned away and used all of his blessings to gratify their desires with foreign idols and wickedness. He then continues in the passage in telling them how he is going to punish them by turning them over to those evil nations they had chosen over him. This is similar to what Jesus said to the Jews living in Jerusalem:
“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing! Look, your house is left to you desolate. I tell you, you will not see me again until you say, ‘Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.’ “ (Luke 13:34-35 NIV)
God has always called out his people for rejecting him, and he has always made it known how long-suffering he is. But there is a point at which God says “enough!” This should not be the way the church acts! The message for the church at Sardis is a great example of this:
Wake up! Strengthen what remains and is about to die, for I have not found your deeds complete in the sight of my God. Remember, therefore, what you have received and heard; obey it, and repent. But if you do not wake up, I will come like a thief, and you will not know at what time I will come to you. (Revelation 3:2-3 NIV)
Just as the children of Israel were surprised when their enemies overtook them, and just as the Jews in Jerusalem were caught unawares by the turbulence that resulted in the destruction of that city, so too will Christians who try to straddle the fence between following Christ and belonging to the world be shocked by the disposition of their eternity.
God has never been less than absolutely faithful to us. He demands from us the same commitment towards him. As a person fallen and corrupted, I am totally replaceable; there is nothing that any of us do for God that he needs. But as a redeemed son of the living God, I am so irreplaceable that he sent his only true son to die in my stead; God wants all of us to see him in this way – with gratitude and the love of complete dedication and exclusive devotion to him. So the choice is ours: do we depend on our useless efforts and walk in arrogance thinking that God somehow needs us? Or do we become truly irreplaceable by surrendering our pride and approaching in humility and gratitude, knowing it is because he chose us that we belong to him?